Mar 25, 2014

It's no secret, many people get divorced multiple times. Statistics show that two out of three second marriages in the United States fail. The percentage is even higher with a third marriage. Is this why some divorced adults decide to stay single?

You don't have to become one of these statistics. If you've been divorced or you're currently going through a divorce, you can find love again. You can become married and stay married for the rest of your life. It starts with understanding what causes the second and third marriages to fail.

Rushing into Marriage

After one relationship is over, you may be quick to rush into another. This is very dangerous and could have you in a second marriage with a rebound relationship. Instead, you may want to take a little time to learn about yourself without dating. This can be very helpful when you decide to date again.

Commitment Issues

You may need to work out some commitment issues and learn to trust. Nobody is perfect and there will come a time where it will become challenging in a second marriage. Giving up isn't the answer, however.

Baggage

You will certainly bring baggage to the new relationship, even if you don't have children. We all bring baggage from past relationships to the new one. However, accepting the other person's past and understanding it shapes the person they are today will help. It also helps to find somebody willing to accept your past and willing to have a future with you.

Blended Families

If you do have children, blending your family with someone else's is a tall task. However, this is very possible and it can work. The challenge shouldn't scare your, but excite you. There are counselors that specialize in helping two families blend together. Seek one out, if you need help in this area.

You can have a successful second, third or even fourth marriage. Make sure you start with a criteria list for the type of person you want. They may not be perfect, but it's okay to want someone with similar religious beliefs and a similar outlook on issues, such as parenting and finances.