Dec 23, 2014

If you’re recently divorced, you may be dreading the holidays because you aren’t sure how you’re going to get through them when your pain is still so fresh. It’s not going to be easy, but there are a few things you can do so that you can still manage to enjoy the holiday celebrations and not dwell so much on what you’ve lost.

Focus on the Children

First of all, if you have children, try to focus more on them and making sure their Christmas is the best it can possibly be. They’re going to be struggling to get through the first Christmas without both of their parents together and it’s going to be an adjustment for them as well.

Avoid Negative Feelings

Try to push aside all your negative feelings towards your ex or about your divorce. If you dwell on those negative feelings, you’re only going to end up having a miserable time, and you may make everyone else around you miserable too. Enjoy the day, participate in the celebrations, and then when Christmas is over, you get let those negative feelings out again.

Don’t think about what your ex is up to for the holidays. Wondering constantly about what he or she is doing will hinder your ability to have a good time.

Stay Busy

Stay as busy as you can. Attend as many of the holiday parties that you’re invited to as you can. If you’re constantly surrounded by friends and family who are in good spirits and having a great time, it will be easier for you to forget about your divorce and it will raise your spirits as well so you can have fun too.

If no one you know is having a Christmas party for you to attend, then make the decision to throw a party yourself. If you throw yourself into party planning and being the host of the party, you’ll have less time to think about the divorce.