Dec 24, 2013

Love is a difficult, yet wonderful thing. When you're married and you're in love with your spouse, but they want a divorce, it can be very difficult. However, if you listen and try to determine what is causing these feeling in your spouse, you may be able to save the marriage or at least do everything you can. Here are a few guidelines for this type of situation.

Stay Calm

Yes, this is difficult and you want to panic, but it won't help the situation. Look at the issues you're going through as an opportunity to grow and learn. A positive outlook can be your biggest asset in this situation and remaining calm will make it easier to rationally think as you handle things. Remember, problems have solutions, if both partners are willing to try.

Eliminate the Drama

Fighting, the silent treatment, leaving and other ways of causing drama will only make this situation harder on everybody. Do your best to avoid dram and remember, you're both adults.

Seek Counsel ASAP

Marriage counseling should be the first step to saving your marriage. It may be the one thing that makes a huge difference, but if you wait, it could be too late. See a marriage counselor as soon as possible if your spouse is considering divorce.

Knowing When it's Over

Not all marriages are salvageable when one spouse wants a divorce. If they continue to break your trust, become abusive (physically, mentally and/or emotionally) or therapy just isn't working, it may be time to call it quits. Before doing so, make sure you know you've done everything you can to save the marriage. This will make it a little easier for you to move one, once it's really over.

Building a New Marriage

If the relationship is able to be saved, you will need to build a new and better marriage. Counseling is a huge part of this and often, couples need to work on the communication within their relationship the most. Work together, keep a sense of humor about things and understand mistakes will still happen throughout the process.