Dec 04, 2013

With the holiday season in full swing, it may become a struggle to enjoy your family, the many parties and the fun going on, if you're divorced. This makes it a bit more difficult, especially if children are involved. However, you can not only get through the holidays, but also enjoy them with a little bit of help.

This time of year can lead to anxiety, depression and feelings of sadness if you're divorced. This happens because you are once again single and there may be an elephant in the room with family members. Here are a few ways you can reduce stress during the holidays.

Realistic Expectations

Most of us know what to expect with our own family, but if you expect the holidays to be much like the movies and shows you see on TV, you may be sorely disappointed. Make sure you keep your expectations realistic and don't expect too much from your family, friends and certainly not from your ex.

Become the Host

Hosting the celebrations allows you to control the guest list. This means, you don't have to invite someone you know doesn't agree with your divorce or hasn't dealt with it yet.

Surround Yourself With Those You Love

If you cannot see your children during the holidays for one reason or another, you need to surround yourself with loved ones. Spending too much time alone can be dangerous and can lead to depression.

Spend Some Time Alone

Contrary to the tip above, it may be necessary to spend a little time alone. We are all different and if your family starts to overwhelm you, maybe a night or two alone is necessary.

Spend within your Means

The last thing you need is one more thing to worry about during the holidays. Make sure you set a budget for spending and stay within it. This will help to relieve the financial pressures you will feel if you overspend.

Use these tips and lean on those closest to you this holiday season. You will find it much easier to survive with this helpful advice.