Oct 21, 2014

Not all divorces are mutual or even wanted by the person that files. Sometimes, a spouse files for divorce or threatens divorce just because they want change in the relationship. Here are a few tips to help you recover after an unwanted divorce.

Give it Time

It's true that time doesn't heal all wounds, but it can make them much easier to live with. The memories are fresh right now, but if you give it some time, you won't have such fresh memories.

Surround Yourself with Positive Friends

Finding friends and cultivating relationships with positive people will help. Whether you already have a few supports, positive friends or you need to find a few, positive relationships can certainly help.

Some of the ways you can find positive friends include using meet ups, joining or getting involved in a church, taking a class at a community center and getting involved with a charity.

Find Yourself Again

Part of finding yourself, after a divorce, is re-discovering who you were before the relationship turned sour. You are worthy of love and finding yourself is a great way to start healing. Take time to discover things about yourself, such as what you like to do and what you stand for.

Celebrate the Single Life

This doesn't mean you go and hop into bed with the first willing person. However, it's necessary to celebrate this season in our life. You are single and you no longer have to do things, such as share a bathroom, go to bed at a certain time or cook for two. Celebrate these small things and enjoy the benefits that do come from a little solitude.

Along with these tips, make sure you give yourself time to grieve and don't rush into a new relationship. Divorce can be very difficult, but it doesn't have to cause pain you cannot recover from.