Apr 10, 2014

It's no secret that a divorce can cause emotional turmoil. However, controlling your feelings, thoughts and most importantly, your behaviors, while going through a divorce is very important. Not only is it important to the actual process, but also to your own self-esteem.

The longer the marriage lasted, the harder this may be, but it's still possible to maintain emotional harmony throughout your divorce. Whether you're the one that filed or your spouse is the one that filed for divorce, making sure you remain calm and control your behavior will go a long way.

Every single decision you make, during a divorce, can have a large impact on the process. If children are involved, this is quickly magnified with any decisions involving the children. Here are a few things to make sure you don't do.

• Don't bash your spouse in front of the children or to mutual friends
• Don't cry every single time you see them
• Don't make rash decisions
• Don't try to handle the divorce without help

As you go through this process, emotions will come up and you do need to handle them. It's a good idea to seek counseling or join a support group. This can help you get through the grieving process and the actual divorce without having an emotional breakdown.

Along with therapy, you will need a skilled divorce attorney. Your attorney can help you understand the divorce laws and what to expect. They can also make recommendations for therapy and other types of help, throughout the process.

As you go through this difficult time in your life, keep in mind, your emotional well-being is very important. Don't bottle everything up, but understand, there is a time and place. Sometimes you need to create that time and place with therapy or regular visits to a close, trusted friend.