Nov 15, 2013

When you know the marriage is over and you are ready to move forward with divorce, it needs to be handled with care. Sometimes emotions can take over, which could hurt the people involved, especially the children. Of course, you cannot protect them from everything, but you can make it a little easier.

Family Meeting - WITH EVERYBODY!

Whether mom or dad initiated the divorce or it's mutual, a family meeting with the kids should happen before it's over. Both parents should be ready to discuss their plans with the kids, which will help them to feel a little more comfortable.

One of the hardest things for anybody going through a divorce is the unknown. During this meeting, mom and dad should spell out the situation, in detail for the kids. Questions may need to be addressed from the children and what seems like no big deal to you, may be a huge deal to them.

They may ask things, such as:

• Will I still get to go to baseball practice?
• Are we moving?
• If we move will I still get my own room?
• Will I have to leave my friends?

The more answers you have for these types of questions, the better it will go and the more comfortable you will be able to make your children.

Support Each Other

Even though it will certainly be hard, when the kids are around, you need to support your soon to be ex-spouse. This is vital to helping your kids understand their dad or mom isn't evil and you don't hate them.

You may be angry and hurt, but keep your kids in mind. They still need both parents and you want to make sure they are able to continue to develop their relationship with both parents.

Divorce Care for Kids

Going through a divorce is hard on everybody. You know you will probably need therapy or at least a good friend and so will your children. Some kids react different than others and you may want to consider some type of therapy or divorce care for your kids.