Nov 01, 2013

After a divorce, the mother often ends up with the majority of custody of the children. This may include taking care of getting them to and from school and other activities. Without a partner helping with any of the household necessities and the children, life can quickly become stressful. Here are some of things to help relieve that stress and help you adjust.

1. Structure

We all need structure, whether it's structure for your children or for you. Proper organization can help you manage your household better.

2. Co-parenting

Coming to grips with the fact that co-parenting is a part of your new lifestyle will help you move forward. Try not to be emotional about your ex-husband during co-parenting moments.

3. Time

When it comes to your kids, they need you to spend as much time with them as possible in between their visits to their father.

4. Don't Forget About You

It's important for newly-single mothers to pamper themselves with relaxation, exercise and other things they enjoy.

5. Therapy

A divorce care group, single mother's group or therapist can help you work through the emotions.

6. Avoid Mean Talk

Remember, he is still the father of your children and they will soak up any mean-talk you provide about him. Try hard to avoid this, as much as possible, when your children are around.

7. Have Fun

Make sure you find something fun to do with your kids, but more importantly, find something fun to do when they are with their father. Moping around the house and spending time alone won't help.

These seven things can help make it easier to adjust to your new lifestyle. Good friends, a support group and understanding how to value time with and without your children can lead to a happier life after divorce.