Jan 29, 2015

The divorce process is a highly stressful and busy time. There are many things you’re trying to remember to do but there are a few things you may not have realized that are important to avoid doing. Rather than focusing solely on what you should do, take the time to follow these tips on what not to do. From behaving badly to engaging in conflict and ignoring your ex’s needs to being inflexible, here is a look at the things to avoid during your divorce process.

Don’t spend money right now

Divorces are expensive. Make sure you’re saving money for the long-term by planning ahead. Any discretionary spending would be wiser placed in a savings account in the bank. If the divorce turns into a long, drawn out process that sucks you dry financially, you’ll have some cash to help you get by for a while.

Don’t ignore your ex’s needs

While it’s easy to dislike your ex right now, it’s still important to consider their needs in the divorce. You are both going through a divorce right now. It’s important to be fair minded and consider your ex’s needs along with yours to avoid a war.

Don’t behave poorly or engage in conflict

Don’t make yourself look bad by behaving badly before, during or after the divorce. Respecting yourself and your ex is really important throughout the divorce because it will make it easier to move on and rebuild your life with dignity.

It may be tempting to engage in conflict with your ex with emotions running high. Focus on the legal aspects and don’t engage when an ex acts angry. Remain silent if anger is brought on to you by your ex. Your attorneys don’t want to be marriage counselors and won’t be a part of your emotional conflicts.

Finally, avoid being inflexible during your divorce settlement.  You should be willing to compromise as much as possible since both parties will come in with expectations and leave not getting everything they wanted. Appreciate what you do get and don’t dwell on the things you wanted but had to compromise on.