Verbal abuse can be one of the more difficult types of abuse to identify. Unfortunately, it is also one of the more common kinds of abuse in relationships and marriages. The biggest problem a person in this situation has is trying to decide where the line is between having a heated argument and actually being verbally abused by your partner.
What makes verbal abuse even worse is the fact that individuals who verbally abuse people tend to be very good at it. This is someone who can say cruel, hurtful, and ugly words that make you feel awful while still appearing to care very deeply about you at the very same time.
You need to let your spouse know they are hurting you. Consider counseling and make sure you surround yourself with other people who care about you.
If you and your spouse go through the efforts of ending the abuse and it does not stop, you need to consider ending the marriage. Verbal abuse usually doesn't stop without some kind of assistance.