May 06, 2014

When going through a divorce, you may forget about some of the most important things, simply because your distracted by your own emotions. However, things, such as the child custody evaluation and other things having to do with your children are very important.

You need to make sure you make a good impression during a psychological evaluation for custody or you may look like a bad parent. Yes, this is a hard thing to go through, but you don't need to make it worse with your ex-spouse making it harder for you to be a good parent.

One of the major issues psychologists see, with this type of evaluation is discussing your ex-spouse instead of the children. This evaluation needs to be about your kids, not about your ex-spouse. If you talk about his/her flaws, you will make a bad impression about you parenting skills. You can literally blow it in one appointment, if you do this.

Usually, the thought process behind this behavior is to make your ex-spouse look bad, but it will backfire. You will diminish your own character because you won't be showing very much concern for your children's welfare. Don't make this mistake.

A Few Tips to Help you Make a Good Impression During a Child Custody Evaluation

If you want to make sure you make a positive impression, you should follow these tips:

• Check the Anger at the Door - Whatever you need to do to leave the anger out of it, do it. You don't want to go into this appointment with an angry attitude.
• Don't Look at Co-Parenting as an Opportunity to Gain Control - Remember, it's about what's best for your kids and they deserve both a mom and a dad.
• No Arrogance Necessary - When you walk into this appointment, you don't need to be arrogant. It won't help you in any way at all.
• The Evaluation is About the Kids - Make sure you remember, this evaluation is all about the kids, not you and your ex-spouse.

Use these tips and the advice from your divorce attorney before heading to the evaluation and you will be ready to put your best parenting foot forward. Just keep in mind, this is more about your kids than it is about you.