There are many opinions on the subject of dating after divorce and every individual is different. Some counselors will tell you that you know you're ready to date when you're 100% comfortable with being alone. Others will tell you that you must wait a specific amount of time before you start dating.
Some of the most common things you may hear about dating after a divorce include:
Even though there may be some truth to each of these statements, they don't apply to every situation.
After a divorce, the decision to date ultimately comes down to you. It's a balance of being past your ex-spouse and the former relationship enough to move forward and a maturity of knowing what you need/want in a future spouse. When you decide to date again, you should have a very good idea of what you're looking for in a man or woman. Setting a list of specific criteria can keep you from settling and ending up in a similar situation as your previous marriage.
You can take the opinion of your counselor or you support group and use it as your benchmark, but there's no perfect answer. It takes time to heal, but everybody heals differently. Maybe you heal quicker than somebody else. You will know when it's time to date and you won't doubt your decision, even though you may question your motive, at first.