Mar 20, 2014

Dating after divorce isn't always easy. Sometimes you feel like no matter who you meet, it's just a rebound. This can be very dangerous because you're vulnerable and you may be a bit needy. The person willing to date you may also be vulnerable and needy.

These qualities don't exactly fit well for a solid relationship foundation, especially after divorce. Some of the emotions coming along with a finalized divorce include:

• Feelings of failure
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Lower self-esteem
• Anxiety
• Confusion

Sometimes, these negative emotions end up being covered by a new relationship before they've been dealt with. This is a good example of a rebound relationship and if nothing else, it's not fair to the person on the other side.

Before jumping into a new relationship, it's important to put your feelings in the right places. Sometimes you may need counseling, while other times, you just need time to heal.

Many of your friends may joke by telling you the best way to get over somebody is to find somebody else. Some people just want a replacement or just don't know how to be alone, after a divorce. However, this can be very unhealthy and could lead to another marriage and another divorce.

You may feel like you're "in love" because the person you met right after the divorce gave you exactly what you needed. This can be very dangerous because you may view them as your rescuer.

Most rebound relationships can mimic a fantasy. They become something that's unhealthy and the healthier the divorced person becomes, the more they may realize the other person isn't right for them.

Being aware of the dangers that come with a rebound relationship can help you to avoid this situation. It's better to heal fully before getting into a new relationship after a divorce.