Jan 10, 2014

It's no secret that divorce can get very ugly. People become vindictive, manipulative and spiteful during a divorce. Putting it mildly, divorce is a challenge.

The good news, many professionals make it their life's work to protect those going through a divorce and help them heal after this huge change. Surrounding yourself with the right people can make all the difference as you go through a divorce.

You not only need a qualified attorney, but you also may need a Certified Financial Divorce Analyst, mediator, therapists and other professionals on your team. Sometimes your attorney may recommend a mediation coach. This professional can help prepare you for a mediation session. They will help you with negotiation strategies, communication techniques and help prepare you for some of the things to expect.

If you don't take charge of your divorce, your partner may. This can leave you regretting not fighting for a better custody agreement, certain financial assets and other things as you go through the divorce. If you just lie down and let them take whatever they want, it may take longer to heal because you won't just be mourning the death of a relationship, but you may also be dealing with regrets.

Communication is one of the most important keys to a smooth transition through a divorce. Another key is understanding what you have/had, as a couple (financially), and what you rightfully deserve. The right professional support network can help you understand all the things necessary to make your divorce happen faster, easier and with a fair result.

You should be the "CEO" of your divorce with a team of professional helping to protect your emotional and financial future. An attorney may be the obvious solution, but you may also need to start seeing a therapist as soon as possible and you may also want a few other professionals on your team. If you're not sure where to turn, your attorney can often refer you to the other professionals you may need on your divorce team.