Jan 21, 2014

We've all heard that men come from Mars and women come from Venus. Well, this is true in many aspects of live and even in divorce.

Men and women often behave differently during a divorce an after a divorce. Understanding this may keep you from reacting a certain way when you see your ex-spouse or soon-to-be ex-spouse doing something you don't thing they should be doing.

Who Dates First?

More often than not, after a Michigan divorce, men date sooner. Men are more likely to move onto what is known as the "rebound" relationship than women. These interactions may not last, but they still count.

For men, dating is often a way of distracting themselves form the emotional hurt they feel from the divorce. It's a way of coping with the negative feelings and preparing themselves for the new future.

Women, however, tend to dwell on what went wrong with the marriage and often isolate themselves from friends, family and new people. They may not spend all their time alone, but often they will cut back on how much social interaction they allow. Many women will actually read self-help books and see a therapist instead of dating.

Who's Better off Financially?

After a divorce, men tend to fare better financially. Even if they are ordered to pay alimony and child support, they tend to see advancements in their career and their income.

This is due mostly to the same reason men start dating earlier. Without a spouse or the children full time, men can focus on work and use it as a distraction from the emotions associated with the divorce.

Women tend to suffer financially after a divorce, especially if they have sole custody of the children. They don’t handle the divorce in the same ways and for women, it may be necessary for a career change or to start a career to help them move forward.

Everybody is different and not all men will react the same to divorce, just as not all women will either. Dealing with the dissolution of a marriage is tricky and scary. There isn't a "best" way to handle it for either men or women.