Jan 14, 2014

Divorce is certainly a sticky type of situation and it can bring along with it more stress than you may be prepared to handle. It's hard enough to approach your partner and children about the divorce, but what about talking to friends and family?

Relationship changes come along with many other changes. You may be worried somebody you know will judge you, blame you or look at you differently. This can make it very difficult to talk to even your closest friends about the divorce.

Talking About Divorce With Friends and Family

It has to start with the closest friend or family member. This may be somebody you want to talk about your divorce with before it’s final or even before you file. Here are a few helpful tips.

1. Be Careful What You Say About Your Ex

Divorce doesn't always split up friendships you and your ex had with friends in common. When you talk to your friends and family members, be careful what you say about your ex-spouse. Words can get twisted and make it back to them, which can cause all types of issues.

2. Share More with Close Friends and Family

Not everybody you know needs the whole story. Some of your friends and family members should be on a "need to know" basis. However, those closest to you, can provide emotional support when you share more about your divorce.

3. Therapy can Help

Talking to friends and family can be very difficult because if they judge you or have an opinion it can strain your relationship. They may also struggle to tell you the truth because they know you're hurting. A therapist doesn't have anything invested in your relationship, which means they can give you honesty. Therapy can help you work through the emotional side of divorce faster and better.

These tips will make it easier to talk with friends and family about your divorce. This isn't an easy thing to do, but you can handle it with the help of those around you.