Nov 27, 2013

Most of the time we assume someone cheats because they find someone they think is more attractive, sexier, in better shape or thinner. However, this isn't always the reason someone has an affair, especially if the woman is the one that cheats.

A study of over 4,000 members online showed that most find their significant other to be more attractive than the person they cheated with. Only 30% of males cheated with a younger woman, while 25% stated their mistresses were more attractive than their partner.

If the majority of people don't cheat for physical reasons, why do they cheat?

Something is Missing

Most of the time, a person cheats because they are missing something they need from their partner. This is often not something physical. Men typically cheat because of physical reasons, but women don't. Most women cheat because they are missing something emotional.

Sometimes people cheat because they think their partner is already cheating or is bound to cheat on them. This is self-sabotage and it's more common than you might think. Nearly 90% of women stated, in an online survey, the men they cheated with made them feel more appreciated than their husband does.

Infidelity Causes Divorce

Regardless of the reason for cheating, infidelity is a leading cause of divorce. However, in Michigan, you cannot claim cheating as your reason for divorce because it's a no-fault state. The facts behind the cheating can have an impact on spousal support, parenting time and child custody, however. They can be used to speak to the person's characters during a divorce case.

It's always a good idea to consider marriage counseling before you throw away your marriage. However, if cheating has occurred and you don't think you can get past it, filing for divorce may be the right option for you.